You can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your family. Which is fine I guess when you are a caveman fighting for survival everyday. If thats the case, then it’s good to run with a clan. But now-a-days I can buy my food, sleep in my own bed, and clean myself like a big boy. Why keep that clan mentality? Because it’s your family, stupid.
You know the old story, kids wants to be an astronaut, but his family wants him to take over the old “family business” whatever that make be. Shoemakers are shoe makers, Robinsons are thieves, and so on and so forth. The would be astronaut has two options, do what he wants to be happy, or fall in line with the rest of the clan. The latter is where the story ends for a lot of people. No questions are asked, no one says boo. But to pursue happiness, THAT’s where all the trouble beings.
I understand that some families are good, and some families are bad, and most families are somewhere in between. But the thing that almost everyone forgets is that families are groups of individuals. Key word: INDIVIDUALS. At this time of the year, we can all be thankful for our families. They give us that safe “home base” to go back to when the year is at it’s most hectic, BUT what if they are the ones making it hectic?
Now I use the scope of families, but this really applies to all groups or clans. When one person reaches to do more than the clan is able to assist with, the clan gets scared, defensive, and often, offensive. The astronaut will be shot down at any chance. USUALLY.
Even in the most positive, and supportive family, there are always those who are not. this is why the holidays are so important. It’s a common ground where all clan members can get together, share a meal, or a few drinks, and not worry about making shoes, or flying to the moon. Unless of course someone didn’t make enough shoes to buy a better gift than their brother, uncle, cousin whomever. Shit can get hairy. Also, passive aggressive.
We all love our family, but if you could pick our family, how many of us would have ever even met those in our clan? Likely, very few. Now to get to my point.
Since we are unable to to choose those in our family, why bother with the silly familial problems? We are all on the same boat, lets all roll together. Let’s understand each individual, and support and love them because we didn’t chose them, we inherited them. That is something special that we should all understand.
Tags: family, holidays, PMS, Thanksgiving
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